Scammers VS Friendship

Over than a week ago, I chatted with an old friend about my latest new net-pals. Laughingly, I told her how one of them so eagerly offered to buy me a new latest computer set and send me money just so we could chat anytime and see each other through web cam. I also told her what a coincidence that the other two had to go the Africa to do their business. In fact, I had been wondering for so long whether it's really that easy for any of US Citizens (yep...those three net-pals claimed themselves as US citizens) to get a work contract abroad, especially in this case Africa, when they only own a small company. I said to my friend that maybe I should get those two together, so they could be friends there in Africa....hahaha....and maybe they could compare notes about me...hahaha....

Several days later I read about a Woman Gets Two Years for Aiding Nigerian Internet Check Scam and I wondered whether because of this I haven't been seen any of those net-pals of mine online. In fact, a day earlier when my old friend asked about them, jokingly I told her that I think they lost in Africa...hehehe....

So, it seems once again I lost another would-be-friends. But, in the other hand I sincerely hope that my bad thinking about them would be proved wrong just this once, that they aren't scammers, that they're really genuine in craving a genuine and beautiful friendship, free from any desires in getting advantage from other people. Huh, unlikely, I think! Hahaha....

Relationship Status: Complicated

During several years of hanging around in cyberworld, I always wondered why there was an option of complicated in stating one's relationship status. What would one actually want to say with stating he/she is in a complicated relationship?

Does that mean you have a spouse but not live together anymore? Nope, it's called separated.
Or you want to say that you have someone special but still not married? Nope, it would be more appropriate to be called committed.

I am always suspicious towards people with complicated relationship. The word "complicated" make me think that he/she is hiding something, from new acquaintances and from family/old friends. That he/she tries to cheat his/her spouse/beloved and prepare to have fun with other woman/man.

I know that I am very prejudiced....judging others badly. I always try to see the other way, stop myself in making negative judgement. Sadly, recently I found that my suspicious above hit a stone. Oh, how sick is the world! And this person dared to call me a prude!

A prude (Old French prude)[1] is a person who is described as being overly concerned with decorum or propriety. They may be perceived as being uncomfortable with sexuality, nudity, alcohol, drug use or mischief.
The name is generally considered to mean excessive modesty, and hence unflattering, and is often used as an insult. A person who is considered a prude may have reservations about nudity, participating in romantic or sexual activity, drinking alcohol or consuming other drugs, or participating in mischief. These reservations may stem from shyness or strict moral beliefs. Actions or beliefs that may cause someone to be labeled a prude include advocating or practising abstinence, advocating prohibition, advocating censorship of sexuality or nudity in media, disapproval of being topless in public, avoiding or condemning public display of affection, or exhibiting unusual levels of discomfort with sexuality, alcohol, drugs, or mischief.

Don't lie, please!

So many years making friends through internet, I still couldn't understand why people have to lie about himself. Why pretend single if you're already married. Why flirt when you're not free to continue it through.

It is not fair. Not for your spouse. Neither for your new friend. It is one step to start an affair, a preliminary act to break an already established relationship, a first step to hurt other's feeling.

Listen to your heart

Generally, I am one of the person who rarely act spontaneously, need quite much time in taking decisions especially if it would affect my entire future. When I am faced to more than one options, I sort of let the flow taking me as far as it could until the critical time when I really have to choose my next direction. This way, I could give myself the sufficient time, more or less, to listen what my heart wish me to do for the best.

Every religion surely would say that God never leaves his people alone. He would always be gladly to show us the way. It is us, His people, who always fails to recognize what He says, because we rarely provide even a little time to keep silent, calm down, give Him a chance to talk and give us what we need to know.

People says that God speaks through your heart. The trouble is to recognize that it's really, really your heart speaking, not your emotions nor your desires. Sometimes I called the voice of God as instings or feelings, the other times I recognized it flowing through my logical mind. Either way, I always try to listen and follow it. But, there were also times that I just did something spontaneously, ignoring the alarm bells of my feelings and finally ended with disaster, more or less. Oh, well, I am only human after all.

A Surprise Development from a Friend's Success Story

Some times ago, I wrote about my online friend who said that he would be getting married soon.

Well, I sent him a congratulation note soon after publishing my writing. The next day, I found a reply from him telling me that actually he didn't have any plan to get married. He used the reason just for closing his profile! lol....why should he do that, anyway? Isn't it more simple just to withdraw from the website?

Well, I don't know his real reason because i missed his call through my home, and he haven't call me again ever since and indeed his site aren't active at all.

Someone's success story

Today, I've found out that one of my first online dates have just married. Wow, congratulation! Maybe I should ask if his bride was one of his numerous online dates.

We met over than 4 years ago....no, actually he who contacted me first, said had my number from my ICQ profile. I never know his looks, since I never found his profile and even more never met him in reality although he asked me several times to meet him. Time was always against us, plus many doubts nagged my conscience in agreeing to his invitations. Then...puffff.....he's gone with the wind, until in this year I accidentally found his profile in another website. But everything had changed then, added to a new information I found about him that's so different from what he told me years ago....lol...maybe that's why my alarm always went off whenever he was around.

Anyway, he's married now....uff, I should send him a congratulation card!! Wish him a happily ever after. Hope his bride success in making him an more honest man...lol...!!

Friends?

It is so hard to find an honest, true, sincere friend nowadays.
Couldn't find many friends through work.
Couldn't make friends outside work, because there is so few time to socialize
Building relationship through internet...or one call it cybermedia.....is the only alternative
But how much hurt it has made me